I think I'm in need of a little help.

Let me start off by saying that I am unconditionally and completely in love with my boyfriend. Without a doubt. However, sometimes I feel there's a bit of a communication block, but it's not when the two of us are alone. Rather, it's when it's him, myself, and his best friend, who happens to be a girl.

Now, I have no problem with his best friend being a girl. I trust him when he says he looks at her only as a friend, as a younger sister almost. But it's her that I don't completely trust. A few months back when he was visiting home on leave, he decided to take an impromptu beach trip with her and one other friend, one that I was unaware of. Keep in mind that this other friend is a complete stoner, unaware to everything that's going on and he'd lie for my boyfriend under any circumstance because he looks up to him for some reason. So you can see why I wasn't exactly happy that he took a trip with her to the beach and failed to mention it to me. We managed to fix things, but I can't trust her much after that whole ordeal.

After that, it was extremely awkward anytime I had to be around the both of them. I like being able to spend time with him, whether it be with friends or alone. But with her, things just don't mesh. Not to mention that they've known each other for years, so it seems as if I don't exist when they start conversing. They ramble off on inside jokes and there's just no room for me to jump into the conversation anywhere. Maybe I'll get the chance to laugh occasionally, if even. I just don't know what to do. I already don't like being around her as it is, but when there's no room for me to even talk to my boyfriend at all, well, it just pretty much makes up my mind. I don't like her, and that's not changing.

My big issue, though, lies in the fact that I don't know how to bring this to my BF's attention. I've told him once, and he basically told me he'd choose her over me that night simply because he sees and talks to me all the time and has rarely gotten to talk and speak with her over the past few months. Now that just doesn't sit right with me. I can't tell him that I don't like talking to him while he talks with her because I'd basically be telling him to choose one or the other, and I can't do that to him. Not when she's been there for him through so much and really kept him together before he and I met and hit things off. But at the same time, I want and need to talk to him too. We're long distance, and the only way to hold it together is to talk. But he doesn't talk to me when he's talking to her.

Any advice and opinions you have to offer is greatly appreciated, because I quite honestly don't know what to do.

Not too long ago I was reading through datingish as usual and happened to come across this entry.

Reading through it, it had me reminiscing about a time where my boyfriend and I had been through a sort of semi situation that really had me questioning how much I really did mean to him. He didn't necessarily blow up or throw a tantrum, but he did abuse alcohol and put me second to it because "he couldn't turn down a challenge" (referring to beer pong).

Now I'm not saying it's wrong to drink, but I don't condone heavy drinking. I don't accept any form of using drugs, EVER. I don't involve myself in anything that'll cause my body harm like that or take the control of my life out of my hands. I like to know what's going on. But I'm not going to stop my SO from going out and having a few drinks as long as it's not abusive and he doesn't come home drunk.

So needless to say, in this situation I did not take it lightly. I had to do a lot of reassessing and there was a LOT of trust that had been lost, especially since he had told me time and time again that he never had more than two or three drinks. Obviously not.

In the end we worked it all out and he saw how much damage that he had done, but I can't help but think that not everyone can be as lucky as I was to manage to work this out, and work it out positively nonetheless.

Has anyone ever been in situations like these? If so, how did you manage it and how did it work out for you? And if you haven't, what are your thoughts on it all?